True communion between human beings means love

“Neither genuine existence, nor the good, are known or experienced fully . . . except in loving relationship with other subjects. You must listen respectfully to the other also if you seek to discover other points of view and come to know his never-ending newness. You must listen to him if you wish to see what he also expects of you and come to know more than just his existence as something different from that of the world, but also what is the good that he is looking for from you . . . The good he looks for from you and you from him, lies precisely in this: that each of you is for the other a source of newness, communion, and love. The evil is no longer evil when the other communicates with you and you with him. It is a good thing to be with the other ‘for better or for worse.’ In communion evil is overcome, for communion is a fulfillment of being. Moreover, the good is no longer good when you impose it on the other even though you do not love him and keep yourself away from communion with him . . . He needs your love and you need his . . . In the need he has for your love you verify your own genuine existence, and in the need you have for his love, you verify that he exists in a mode superior to that of objects . . .  You find that you exist by reinforcing the other in his existence just as he exists by reinforcing you in your existence. Love means . . . remaining in communion” (D. Staniloae. 2000. The experience of God: The world: Creation and deification, p. 179).

“Only love, or communion in freedom is the source of good. Love alone can reinforce the existence of the two in common and only the decision that has its origin in love and its goal in love . . . serves what is genuinely good. The isolated decision made according to a rational norm established by the individual cannot do this” (p. 180).

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